It’s a fact well known that having a big penis is what makes you a god between the sheets. And sure, based on what you see in porn, can you blame men for thinking like that? But what is hardly realized is that porn isn’t reality. There’s no way a pizza delivery guy turns out to be a well-hung Hercules with muscles in all the right places. 99% of women are quite satisfied with average sizes, unlike the women in porn who scream for big dicks. And if you happen to be on the smaller side of average, you have to remember that sex isn’t all about the penis. The female orgasm can be brought about by fingers, hands, and tongue. What works for men works for the women as well, folks.
Now that that has been cleared, focus on your confidence. Men who are confident with what they have are certainly more relaxed in bed, which makes sex enjoyable for both parties. We’ve compiled a list of things you can do to feel good like that.
A little weight loss
The extra flesh in your lower abdomen, right above your pubic bone needs to go. When you aren’t naturally lean, all the fat in your body tends to get deposited over there, obscuring your penis. Shedding this weight through regular exercise should help you to gain another inch in penis length. And don’t depend on crunches for this. They only strengthen your stomach muscles. They don’t get rid of fat. Lifting weights, including healthier fats in your diet (healthier fats promote weight loss), cutting down on alcohol and eating fewer carbs are more likely to help you to lose those unsightly pounds rather than doing crunches like a prejudiced gymrat.
Trim your pubic hair
Keep the hair around your shaft and balls trimmed. The more hair you have, the more hidden your penis appears. And besides, it should be an incentive for your lady to get on her knees and orally pleasure you. No fun doing that if she keeps getting hair in her mouth so make sure you trim very carefully. And of course, a trimmer works better than scissors guys.
Use vibrating cock-rings
One thing that I can't comprehend is the huge number of couples who are reluctant to experiment with toys in the bedroom. There are a variety of toys available in the market, which are capable of delivering sensations that your penis or fingers can’t and it’s a shame that many folks are unwilling to try them because they hold the element of foreign or surprise. But going back to our topic – if you are feeling especially conscious of your penis size, cock rings and especially vibrating cock rings are sure to make sex better for you and your lady. Mostly your lady, but that’s okay.
These cock rings have a vibrator attached to them, and you can position them to stimulate her clitoris. Place it on the top of your penis if you’re going for missionary and on the bottom (near your testicles) if you’re doing doggy. Whichever way you use it, it is bound to deliver a powerful O for your partner. The brand Durex has a line of these and they are sure to do as they promise.
This is crucial. Men are guilty of not spending enough time indulging in foreplay. If you are worried about your penis being too small to satisfy her in sex, start using foreplay as a tool. Kissing, licking, spanking, biting – when done right can turn her on so much, to the extent that she will be pretty close to climax before penetration. And even better if you can make her cum at least once before entering her.
All the spots
This comes under foreplay and but I thought it should be a separate topic because so much needs to be said on this. Women have four hot spots which, if stimulated properly can trigger the most enjoyable orgasms. And trust me, once you gain mastery in kindling these, she would be too engrossed in pleasure to wonder how short or tiny your package is. Below lies the description of each spot - what it is, where it is located and how it can be stimulated.
The clitoris (called clit for short) is a highly sensitive and erogenous zone with more nerve endings than any other part of the vulva. It is located at the top of the vulva. Tiny and sized like a nipple, the clit is the female equivalent of the penile tip. It’s partially covered by a hood and swells up when aroused. During foreplay, rub your thumbs in small circles around this clit while licking the head with the end of your tongue. The missionary position has the most potential for stimulating this – your partner can do a downward roll of the pelvis when she’s lying down.
This is a sensitive part of the anterior vaginal wall, which holds the possibility of female ejaculation when stimulated for a while. It is located 2-3inches inside the vagina on the front wall. During foreplay, stick your fingers in about 2 inches inside the vagina and angling your fingers upwards, start motioning a ‘come here’ gesture. It would take some practice to find the actual spot but once you do, stimulate it for a while. As for sex, while your partner is lying down, make sure, her back is slightly angled and her legs are up and towards her breasts. Enter her slowly and keep your thrusts shallow at first and gradually deepen them.
This spot is the opening to the urethra (located just above the vaginal opening, above the lips). Your tongue and fingers play a crucial role in stimulating this. Lick the inner part of the lips, right above the clit. Slip your fingers in and gently move them horizontally or vertically. And during sex, use the head of your penis (may or may not be erect) to play around her vagina, where the U-Spot is located. Combine with clitoral stimulation since this spot won’t cause an orgasm by itself.
Also known as the Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone, this is a patch of sensitive tissue at the inner end of the vagina between the cervix and the bladder. It is located further up inside the vagina from the G-spot, making it harder to reach. While fingering, place both index and middle finger inside the vagina, doing a thumbs-up motion which will allow your fingers to stimulate the G-Spot and the A-Spot simultaneously. In order to reach this spot during sex, let her be on top, with her belly touching yours. Reverse cowgirl is also great for reaching this spot.